As a life coach, I have learned that people really hate making decisions. Some folks do not trust themselves, or fear making the wrong choice. Decisions are not good or bad, right or wrong. Decisions are options that are weighed and measured with a purpose and objective in mind. However, making a decision is not about the goal but about the process. When you arrive at the conclusion or goal, you should have learned valuable lessons about yourselves and others—no matter how challenging or easy, of if you like (or dislike) the process or options. Therefore, when you can see the result as not about being successful or avoiding pain, but about growth and change, you can feel comfortable about your decision and choices.
We will not always like our options, but the decision process can give us peace and a sense of value when we perceive and approach the process in a thoughtful way. As such, when coaching my clients and helping them set goals, I help them see that the best decisions should lead to expanding their knowledge and opening their mind.
In order to make the best decision (I purposely did not say the right decision), it helps to follow a clear, mindful process:
Investigate your state of mind before making a decision
Never decide anything out of fear, anger, or desperation
Weight all available options before deciding on any particular path
Assess the greatest benefit of each choice – who benefits, why one choice is better than others, who will get hurt
Identify the greatest benefits and fairest outcome for many or all impacted by your choices
Get wise counsel from others your trust--sometimes other can see what is not obvious to us
Determine if time, emotional and material costs are worth the outcome—will the results be a pyrrhic victory?
Identify your level of commitment and if you can be all in -- no matter what happens
Sit with your final decision before implementing it—think, meditate, chant and/or pray on it
Trust what you know and and trust the process
No matter what happens, be flexible and adaptable to the reality of the situation
Accept the results as they are without judging the situation, yourself or others
May you have awesome decision making opportunities!
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